| Sample Letter -
This is a general purpose sample. Dear Anna,
My name is Jeff Smith. I received your name and address from
Singlesmeeting.itgo.com on the Internet. I liked your ad very much, and like you, I am
also interested in art, music and travel. I hope we can get to know each other better. I
am seeking friends from other cultures and would eventually like to find a loving,
lifelong partner. I hope this letter will serve as an introduction to me and that you will
be interested in corresponding and getting to know each other better.
I am 42 years old and was born in St Paul, Minnesota. I have 3 brothers and a
sister. When I was 12 we moved to San Diego, California where I live today. I went to
college at UCLA where I received a degree in computer science. I now work for a company
that uses computer graphics to design business logos and advertising. In my spare time I
enjoy photography, hiking, and relaxing at the beach. I have a 10 year old daughter from a
previous marriage. I was divorced 3 years ago and she lives nearby with her mother. I have
enclosed some postcards I made from my photographs. They show some of the places I like to
go hiking, and parts of San Diego. I have also included a photo of myself - that's me with
my dog, Wuff.
I noticed that we had some of the same interests and would like to hear all
about where you live, your job, your hobbies, and plans for the future. Please write me
back and tell me more about you and your family. I would also enjoy any recent pictures of
you and about where you live.
I hope this will be the beginning of a long and lasting friendship. I look
forward to your reply with great anticipation. My address is:
Jeff Smith
235 Loyalty Lane
San Diego, Ca 92xxx
Sincerely Yours,
Jeff
Phone # (619) 555-xxxx
e-mail: jsmith@hotmail.com |
Making the Date
- Plan a casual date—based on what both
of you enjoy.
- Make the first date a short one. This
gives you an "out" in case the evening is a disaster.
- Plan to meet at a neutral, public site
where both will feel comfortable.
- Be clear about the arrangements.
- Drive separately; it’s a safety
precaution for both.
- Have some favorite activities in mind so
that you can make suggestions and participate in the planning.
- Until "who’s paying" is
clarified, stick to affordable events or places. (Expecting a first date to pay for
something expensive can lead to problems.)
- Don’t include your children in the
date.
Preparing
for the Date
- Consider what you and your date will be
doing. What can you do ahead of time to make the event go well?
- Have a contingency plan in mind. Perhaps
the theater has lost your tickets, or the movie you’d planned to see is sold out. When
you plan ahead you won’t be as likely to overreact and embarrass yourself. You will
simply shift into phase two.
- Ask your date-to-be about some of his or
her hobbies, activities, and interests. Then, as a conversation starter you can discuss
things they are most familiar with.
- Read the paper or watch the evening news
before going out. Be prepared to discuss some of the day’s current events.
- Make a list of your positive
attributes—not so that you can brag about them, but so that your awareness of them
builds your confidence—which is attractive to others.
- Do some activity earlier in the day to
boost your self-confidence. For example: go for a run, swim, be with friends.
- Plan how you can look your best.
- Bring money and offer to pay for your
share of any restaurant bill or entertainment tickets.
During the date
- Smile
- Be confident
- Be friendly and warm
- Call your date by his or her name
- Compliment him or her
- Give the other person plenty of
opportunity to talk. Listen to what he or she is saying
- Be natural
- Be honest—act and say how you feel
- Thank them for the date
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